Archive for June, 2013

Growing up, many of us have memories of going to the zoo and learning about animals and getting to see animals that otherwise are no where close to being in anything that resembles their natural habitat. You don’t think about this or how the zoo went about getting their animals. You just assume that the animals have been treated well and are otherwise in the zoo or wildlife park for their best interest.

These views and ideas that are put into your head from a young age are that of someone who is completely uneducated and naive. Ever wondered why many Zoo’s conduct breeding programs? Some do so for the the protection of an endangered species, some even do it for better understanding of ideal breeding environments of these animals, however, no matter what their reasons, in most cases these breeding programs are usually conducted for the sake of selling the animals to other zoo’s and parks for huge amounts of money in order to fund the park.

Do you not see what’s wrong with that picture? We accept and condone the trading of animals and view it as ‘legal’ yet if you weren’t a zoo it would otherwise be deemed as illegal trading. Kind of ironic really considering we’re still talking about the same money to be made, be it on the black market or in a zoo structured and sanctioned environment.

By now, everyone has heard of “The Cove”, the infamous hidden cove in Japan where Dolphins are cornered in order for water parks, theme parks and zoo representatives to choose their ideal Dolphin to train for the sake of tourism never mind the Dolphin being removed from it’s ideal and normal day to day environment. Once they have selected the Dolphins they want of which they pay stupid money for, the rest of the dolphins of which could be in their hundreds of eve thousands are all slaughtered for their meat of which end up in tuna cans or in other meals around Japan and the world and yet, most Japanese people have no idea that this is taking place.

Don’t you see the problem? When you go to a zoo or a water park, all you’re doing is encouraging them to do this. You encourage and fuel their removing animals from their natural habitat  in order to increase profits. You could argue it’s all for research but this is so far from the truth. There are wildlife parks all over the world where tourists and people are prohibited from entering to ensure the animals continue to live a peaceful life.

Don’t take my words too deep or out of context because we as humans are animals too and happen to eat meat and as such kill to do so. This is normal within reason. There are humane ways to do things and there are not. So I need to be clear that I am not an over the top animal wellfair person who really has no common sense, but I need people to understand that going to Water World and watching those dolphins do tricks and what not only helps these people continue to do these things and in doing so kill hundreds and thousands of animals for the sake of making profits. They force breeding programs on animals in order to sell the young for an obscene amount of dollars to fuel their ever increasing desire to please the people that visit the zoo or park.

I’ve just seen an article where by Chinese people have pulled a Dolphin from the water and held it up for extended periods so they could get photo’s with it. In doing so they have killed the dolphin. This is disgusting! A dolphin is one of the most majestic mammals in the ocean with an intelligence similar to humans, yet they are completely friendly and harmless. Why can’t we all just treat every living creature with the respect it deserves?

I never used to view the world this way simply out of sheer ignorance. I had no idea what went on  behind closed doors, but the more you look into it and learn, the more you realise that the world you live in isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. We’ve placed growth and profits ahead of moral stance and general knowledge. People have lost the way and I live in fear of the day dolphins and whales won’t be seen any more and will simply be a faint memory.

I’ve been seeing a shrink for about 8 weeks now and just talking about my situation and knowing that many things are out of my control so instead of trying to control everything, accept more of life as is and stay calm. I’ve learnt that the large amounts of stress at work cause a huge lack of sleep with only 3-4 hours a night and I’m in the process of changing things up to reduce this.

Basically all in all, things have somewhat improved on the work front, however, the home front sadly hasn’t. My fiancée and I had a huge discussion about changing the way we do things and ensuring we spend more time together. The problem is though, it appears to be a one way streak… I’m sick of spending 4 hours in the kitchen making a meal purely of love and simply doing it for her only for her to come home 3 hours late from work thus finding myself eating alone. It really sucks that all that effort into someone else gets wasted. I wouldn’t have made that meal for myself as I simply don’t need to pamper myself with a huge meal, however, I do these things for her only and she shrugs it off as if I should do it anyway.

When did helping out or doing little things for your partner be accepted as a responsibility that one must do? I refuse to give in to that, instead I believe these things should be done from the heart and as such should be seen as to come from there thus making every bit of help and every small gesture to one another all the more special. It would bring a couple closer, but instead tension grows and in the end you find yourself as a bloke giving up and doing little to help in the house at all of which only makes things worse. Yet, if only she just opened her eyes and realises that there is no other reason other than HER for us helping out which frankly should be quite humbling to think someone is giving up their time and efforts to help you in the house, after all, it’s not like many women come out into the yard and help us blokes do the wedding, pruning the tree’s, mowing the lawns etc. So in the end we have a one sided relationship where by the bloke gives up due to exhaustion of trying to please her or otherwise keep surprising her.

Here I sit, due to be married this year and I look at everything going on and just wonder if it’s worth it at all? I really wanted kids and I don’t want my judgement to be clouded by that fact and nor do I want to bring a child up in a split family so I really need to consider what it is I really want, and how she is going to help in playing a key role in making that happen. Ultimately if these problems continue I’m not going to remain in a relationship out of remaining in a comfort zone and nor will I have kids out of pure selfishness only to have them brought up in a broken home.

Anyway, the positives out of all this is that I’m feeling much happier at the moment and work has been much better. I’m half way there!